What happens to this? Our very young ones start out motivated to help us, but due to their ignorance and low level motor-skills, we parents -understandably - reject their help as it tends to make more “work” for us.
On the other hand, there are THREE SIGNIFICANT overlooked consequences for rejecting or avoiding letting our children help us daily:
Our children come to feel that they are a problem for us rather than a resource. This results in an almost inevitable decrease in willingness to “help us out,” and an increase in their avoidance of our requests, cajoling, and attempts to instill personal responsibility as our children grow.
They miss many, many opportunities to develop helpful motor skills and understanding. Our child’s brain, neurology, and skills all grow with use. Think about how any new skill you willingly practice for two or three years improves greatly. Ages and Stages be damned! (Okay, that’s a bit strong, but, no kidding, we have a lot to attend to in the upcoming years).
Our “extra” work (letting them help us clean up) pays off with interest over time. And just like interest on money, skills grow geometrically over time.
“What to do is not a problem. Those resources are available. But how to do it? That makes all the difference. That takes some time, some new thinking.”
Initial practices, like actively taking care of our own home environment, when begun early, become a natural and fulfilling way of life that extends out from our family into society.
We parents can miss out on an increase in the fulfillment of parenting, of accomplishing things together, along with the joy being with our children have as they master learning language.
The world is in our hands, as are our children - we can impact both much earlier and much more than we think.
It is not about being a better parent or having better-behaved children. It is about freedom to be ourselves, about communication and trust, and learning and practicing extraordinary social skills as partners. It is never too late. It is never too soon.
Finally, the practice field for this is now all about taking care of our environment, our planet, in any way or ways we choose. Go here for more information.
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